Adam's Ladder

Hey guys,

I’m a 5’6”, 28 year old Asian guy with an average physique. I don’t work out and primarily focus on verbal game / day game to seduce women. I’ve been gaming consistently since November, 2019 – February, 2020. Took a (forced) three month hiatus due to the lockdown. Started back up June, 2020 – present.

So far, I’ve gotten 4 notches, 9 makeouts, and a ton of instadates. I’m currently at the point in my game where I’m able to hook + instadate girls, get a solid number, but I’m learning physical escalation.

However, I stagnated in my game. Like, I was able to kino, but it felt mechanical akin to doing an action just because.

After speaking with John Sonmez of Bulldog Mindset, he gave me invaluable advice which I think will take my game to the next level:

Sexual Mindset (aka Sexual Demeanor)

According to John Sonmez – the Bulldog Mindset himself – all my sets should come from a sexual frame. “I want to fuck her”, should be my mantra. Look her in the eyes, and say no matter what I have in my mind, with sexual desire.

What’s more important than physical touch is a sexual demeanor.

Don’t focus on the techniques – what I do – but rather, how I say it. I can say the most mundane things, but the way I say it, and what I do with my hands say* alot* more than words alone. In fact, it’s usually way more powerful, because saying and doing “sexy” things while uncalibrated comes off as creepy.

Hell, make strong eye contact and say things that are non-sexual, but say them in a sexual way.

You want to make it seem like she’s seducing you. Like she’s got some sort of magical power that’s making it difficult to control myself over her.

I am having this normal conversation, but I keep getting distracted by thinking about what I want to do to her.

Don’t say that, but be that.

Practice saying, “I want to fuck the shit out of you.”

Then practice thinking, “I want to fuck the shit out of you,” while saying, “I really like the dress you’re wearing.”

John strongly suggests I practice too far in order to figure out how far I can go. So, pretty much always go for the kiss during a date. Try your limits.